Stress...

Stress is a common thing in our every day lives. It can be dragged into a lot of situations, but most of the time we make up something to stress about, which wasn't there in the first place. I am going to talk about few situations and how i would deal with them.

Stress, in my opinion, can be divided into few groups or situations:

School - in this facility, stress is my second name. I stress about anything and everything. Even if i see someone that i like, i am stressed and nervous around them, even if i see them everyday. It is not good. I always had thought that stress can be controlled and that i don't make up problems. But it do. In school you learn something new everyday, you are facing new challenges, you are finding out something new about yourself and others everyday. By getting challenged you stress, whether, you are going to be good at it or not, are you going to be laughed at or applauded to, or are your knowledge is going to be good enough. Everyone feels that way, but not everyone says it. For me, i stress about it every single day. Even if it is just a lesson, i am nervous about what i will have to do and if i fail or not; if it is just a test, i am nervous about how will i do. I didn't say anything, because i thought it was normal. Until one class that made me change my mind and my perspective on things. In politics we had few exercises to do - we had to work in group, then leave our group and talk about our part to others (in the mixed group, not our own group, we had 4 different sides to the exercise and 4 different minds), we had to tell about our part to the other so that they can take notes and understand something about it to tell later to their group. Everything was fine until the teacher said - If someone from a group can't explain a question that other group mates ask, then your team will be suffering, because your group hadn't talked about it correctly. It set me off in my mind. I started thinking that i am not going to be good enough and i am going to fail. I have had panic attacks once or twice before, but this was something new. Before i started crying, because of the attack, but that day my hands were shaking. It was terrifying for me, because i didn't know what to do or how to stop my hands from shaking. I couldn't write for a while, because of that. I even think that my classmate, who was sitting next to me, noticed that, but didn't say anything. I was nervous for an hour after that. I got through it, everything was fine, but it was nerve wracking.

When i told this story to my sister she got worried, because you are not supposed to have panic attacks at school of any kind, so i needed to find a way to calm myself down. I started looking at things more easy : I try not to stress that much about new challenges - i try not to worry, because if i fail i will learn from it, but if i succeed i will learn from it even more, so it is actually a win - win situation. I try not to make up problems when there aren't any. It has never been easy, but it needs to be done. I still struggle with that a lot, but i try my best. If i keep living on a stress mind all the time in school, i will legitimately go insane. I have to KEEP myself HEALTHY by keeping MIND and MENTAL HEALTH POSITIVE and NOT stress about all the things around me.

New people - Everyday you see someone new, but every other day you meet someone new for the first time. You have to give your first impression, but what if you are nervous? What if you are shy and do weird things, but you are not like that in everyday life? What then? It is so hard to change The first impression, but you have to try. It is important to not be different around new people. If you are with friends, then act like you would act if you hadn't met anyone, because the person will meet the real you after a while, he is going to see that side of you anyway, so, in my opinion, it is best to just be you when you meet someone new. A lot of people don't like talking to shy people because they don't know if they'll find something in common with them. You have to be more open, try your hardest and you'll see how it will change everything. For most years of my life i was stressed around new people, so i became super shy when around new people, they didn't like me and didn't want to hang out with me, but after a while i realized that i can't go on like that. I pushed myself to not be nervous and be who i am, it changed so much around me. I started getting to know myself and others more, i got some crushes who liked me back ( but every time there was an obstacle that led us apart), many opportunities came at me, so i would say that by keeping calm and not being stressed about what to do, just me yourself and you will do an amazing job! BE YOURSELF, that is all you need!